
I think
surreal is the word.
The past week has been filled with resignation letters, panic attacks in the name of "way too big yard sales" and "I have so much to do before I can even leave my current job!"
Lauren has locked herself in our bedroom a couple of times just to hide in the silence, as if this one room can shut out both of our current realities of choosing to abandon our geographic foundation of five years, life-long friends in the same town, the best colleagues a person can have, a schedule we rely on, and our favorite restaurants. (Note: Food will always be in the top 5 of any of my lists.)
I have never been good at allowing the spectrum of emotions to exist within any one situation. I suppose that comes with my slightly extreme personality. How can I be ecstatic and sad all in the same situation? I have read enough books to know that sadness and happiness make one hell of a great pair of opposites but like many young souls in this universe, I am never convinced until I touch that deceivingly curious hot stove.
For example, if I decide that I am going to sell every piece of furniture I have ever owned (which is exactly what I am doing) then the last feeling I want is to acknowledge the sadness of letting go of my first non-college drenched, stain-free, know-exactly-where-it-has-been couch. And when I daydream of spending hours on organic farms across America, I also feel like drinking a six pack of something rather then saying good-bye to every plant I co-cared for in my urban farm, in the first house I owned, in a city that has offered up a wealth of open doors.
I am attempting to feel the icky that comes with following one's bliss. It is unsettling. Lonely even. How do I explain to others (and myself) that going away from so much good will ultimately lead me back to good? I don't even know what that means. Sometimes I have to pretend that The Alchemist was written for me just so I can survive myself. I am Santiago following my dreams. Simple words for big vision. Am I just selling myself on a gimmick I created or am I really going down a path that leads to...another path? The devil and angel sit smugly on my shoulders forever forming the next business venture in the name of "experience".
While telling people about our plans, I have received every reaction in the book. From, "oh my goodness. you go girl!" to, "but what about your state benefits?" I believe some people see through me because they want to point out all the "fear factors" of the trip, as if they know that I am purposefully looking at all the positives just so I don't have to face the sacrifices. Tunnel vision comes in handy sometimes.
I honestly don't like these conversations. They make me feel as if people want to make me slightly less happy. But I also know that people who take the time to ask questions, worry for my safety, and offer assistance are merely trying to put themselves in my shoes so that they too can be with us on the trip. 90% of the world has good intentions. I am still working on what the other 10% is made up of though. :)
If the only purpose of the trip is to feel what I am feeling right now, then it has been worth it. With all of these emotions stirring in me, the one that is speaking the loudest is appreciation.
They aren't kidding when "they" say that sometimes it takes losing something, to see its worth.
(I love using "they". It gives me such liberty to jot down any BS that fits the argument of the moment).
So with that, thank you for the opportunity to miss you.